It’s easy to feel like no one understands our trials, sufferings, burdens, and heartaches. Even when well-meaning people offer sympathy, we feel that they can’t be sincere, because they do not know all that we’ve been through. They haven’t experienced the pain and sorrow like we have.
We sometimes even cynically despise sympathy, because deep in our hearts we long for complete understanding and empathy–the comfort that somehow, we are not alone in the darkest hours, that someone truly and fully understands our pain, sickness, grief, and heartache.
I have been in this bind more times than I care to count. In anguish I would cry to God “Is there not one person who understands?”
Gently, he would point me to my Savior and His Atonement.
At first I was confused. Had I done something wrong? Was it a sin to yearn not just for love, but for love and understanding? I had always thought that Christ’s Atonement was for our sins and mistakes and weaknesses. I didn’t realize there was more to it than that.
Right in the scriptures, it states (in Mosiah as well as in Isaiah) “He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief…” “Surely he hath borne our griefs and carried our sorrows…” (Mosiah 14: 3-4, Isaiah 53: 3-4)
Not only did he suffer and die for my sins, he suffered grief, sorrow, pain. This was absolutely incredible and life-changing for me.
“And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people.
And he will take upon him death, that he may loose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities.” (Alma 7:11-12, emphasis added)
What sweet relief came to my heart when I found that there was understanding. There was someone I could turn to who had complete comprehension of my personal hardships. Jesus Christ.
Jesus Christ is the ultimate Healer and Friend. Even when we feel alone in the world, we can turn to Him and find peace and comfort.
I know this with all my heart. Jesus loves you so much that he bore your pains, your sicknesses, your grief. He understands what you are suffering. He wants to be there for you, and His arms are open wide, waiting for you.
Turn to Him. Believe in Him. That is all He asks.
Your burdens can be lightened, your cares alleviated, as you place them all at His feet. You may not find the end of all your hardships, but rather, you will find grace, that you may bear them and come out a stronger, better person with a closer relationship with your Savior.
I know Christ’s Atonement is real, and I testify that it works. For sins, yes, and mistakes. But also for sickness, sorrow, pain, and grief.
“Surely he hath borne our griefs and carried our sorrows.”